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How to be successful: Overcoming perfectionism and procrastination: two sides of the same coin

Perfectionism and procrastination are generally considered separate and unrelated topics. However, when examined closely, they look more like kissing cousins ​​than casual friends.

Procrastination is an obvious obstacle to success and achievement; while the other, perfectionism, appears as the desire to present quality and precision. Most of the time, they both serve the same purpose… keeping you from achieving your goals and dreams. Let’s take a closer look to see what I mean.

Perfectionism… the ego power play! I have had my own problems and experiences with perfectionism. One thing I’ve learned about it is that seeing something as “perfect” is relative to where we are at a particular point in our growth and awareness.

I’m still working on getting over it completely, but now I’m much better at noticing when I’m giving up. It was an obstacle to being and presenting my best self for a long time. When I learned to let go and allowed my inner self to express itself as I am, things began to flow much better and I achieved much more.

When I look back at some of the work that I once thought was ‘perfect’, well…now it doesn’t look so perfect. I have grown and evolved; and my beliefs and perceptions have changed.

While most of my work still makes me proud, other projects seem underdeveloped or unpolished. And, some of it makes me say to myself… ‘what was I thinking when I wrote or did that!’

For example, I started writing a book a few years after I lost my son. He seemed so enlightened and powerful at the time. I spent years rewriting, revising and trying to ‘make it perfect’.

He had a lot to say and he wanted it to be the right thing. In the end, I never published it. I worked on it for years, but it was never completed. For me, it was never the shining example of perfection that I wanted it to be.

Now when I look at the manuscript, I regret not completing it and publishing it. I had a message that was never delivered. Those he wanted to help never got to read what he was offering, meaning we all missed out on the benefit of that missed opportunity.

Now let’s take a look at procrastination. Simply put, this is the one habit that will stop you in your tracks. We all do it, even successful people procrastinate. The difference is that they have learned to recognize it and have developed techniques to control and overcome it.

Procrastination manifests itself in many ways. When it comes time to work on our projects and tasks, we subconsciously seek and find all the excuses in the world to avoid doing them.

At the office, we take bathroom breaks, visit co-workers, drink coffee, make phone calls, maybe surf the net! At home we play with the kids, walk the dog, do chores around the house, water the plants, make phone calls, and yes, surf the net…do you see where I’m going with this?

Now, it’s okay if you procrastinate from time to time; And don’t beat yourself up for it. But you must recognize the signs when it is doing it and take steps to stop it before it stops you.

While perfectionism appears to be a positive attribute and is perceived as something to be admired, procrastination is widely recognized for what it really is… an obstacle to success.

The bottom line is that whether you’re a perfectionist or a procrastinator, the end result is the same…you miss deadlines, complete projects, and achieve your goals and dreams.

If these time-wasting and energy-draining behaviors are allowed to continue unchecked, you will end up feeling frustrated and defeated every time.

No matter how talented and capable you are, you will never realize your full potential until you master and control these behaviors.

So what is the answer? It’s simple, though not necessarily easy. First, learn to identify what behavior you are exhibiting and when.

Are you continually reworking, rewriting, and revising projects that cause you to miss or procrastinate on deadlines? That could be a sign of perfectionism.

Instead, do your best to complete your project, make reasonable revisions, and post it as complete…on time. When you have done your best, you know it and the feelings of success and achievement are your rewards.

When you’re procrastinating, you have a hard time even starting a project. His stomach knots, he feels anxious, restless and even guilty.

But, once you get past procrastination and complete a milestone or task, you feel relaxed, satisfied, and motivated. This gives you a sense of success and accomplishment and increases your self-confidence.

Now that you know how to recognize what behavior you are exhibiting, you will be able to decide what actions to take. I said the answer was simple, but not necessarily easy.

The truth is that you are the solution. And how you handle these challenges is up to you.

Acting requires willpower, focus and self-discipline. Make a decision to change the self-defeating behaviors of perfectionism and procrastination and choose to experience success and fulfillment instead.

Make a plan. The next time you start procrastinating, stop; take 3 deep breaths and do something related to your project or work.

When you see perfectionism rising, set a deadline for completing a phase or milestone and stick to it. Do your best, then let it complete and move on to the next phase or project.

As with all things in life, it all comes down to making decisions. You can choose to continue to experience the limitations and resistance of perfectionism and procrastination, or embrace the freedom and exhilaration that come with achievement and success.

Procrastination and perfectionism, or success and achievement; Which of these two kissing cousins ​​would you rather have in your family? Choose wisely… you will spend the rest of your life with them. Perfect!

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