Act 1, Scene 1
Enter KNIGHT IN SHINING ARMOR
After the emotional devastation caused by being in a relationship with a narcissistic emotional abuser, if a person could look at their life from another vantage point than first person, they could easily describe the entire relationship using the analogy of a play. Well written. Although the audience expects the knight in one play to save the day of the damsel in distress, the knight in this play is actually a notorious evil knight. He is very skilled and a professional at his craft as he has played this role in countless plays before his current performance and even now while in this performance he plays the role of gentleman in many other plays with appearances on different dates or at different times. the same dates. but at different times.
The gentleman is rehearsed and knows how to play his role and the gentleman has also studied the role of the protagonist. In case the leading lady doesn’t play her according to the script, the knight doesn’t care as he is flexible and agile like a snake who can slip through nooks and crannies. The gentleman’s act doesn’t skip a beat. For him, it actually makes the play more entertaining and exciting and chills his blood even more than he had planned and expected. Nothing that the protagonist presents makes the gentleman nervous. If he gets caught in a bind, the knight simply changes direction and continues to lead the play where he wants it to go.
Let’s describe the protagonist of this work. The protagonist is a sincere, sweet, confident lady. She doesn’t have much street smarts. She has not been of any use to her because in most of her life experiences she is related to honest, frank and authentic people. The maiden in this play is living her life trying to earn a living and taking care of life’s responsibilities and patiently waiting for the moment when her “knight in shining armor” appears. The maiden, having been involved in activities that one would consider good deeds, she never for a moment entertained the idea that she might perhaps be being watched from a distance by a knight who had a well-laid plot to play.
The gentleman did his homework. He watched as the lady lived his life. He watched how she made a living. He watched as she tended to life’s responsibilities and watched and understood her deep desire to experience the day when her knight would cross her path. The stage has been set and now the play is about to begin.
For the maiden in this story, what did the knight give her? She presented something. This is how a narcissistic emotional abuser works. The narcissistic emotional abuser enters the picture by making promises. Did you get that part? Promises consist of words. Material goods are not present. Promises are just words. If really pushed and that means really pushed, the narcissistic emotional abuser might produce, but that is only, only if he has calculated that the return on investment from him will far exceed any cost. One must understand that when dealing with a narcissist everything, everything, is calculated and deliberate. Deliberate down to the minute details.
If you were the damsel in this story, what would the gentleman have to present? Would it be good looks, a strong physique, a well-paying job, a nice car, a nice house, a good family history, an insurance plan, a retirement plan, a promise to take you on a trip, or a job title? The list could be endless, but surely the narcissist has figured it out. The crazy thing is that it really isn’t that hard to figure out the desires of most damsels. Somewhere between financial security, a loving home, and traveling with a loved one, the narcissistic emotional abuser may hit their mark.
When you ask yourself “How did I get into this madness?” That’s how it started. You were on your merry way living life and you caught the attention of a narcissistic emotional abuser.
Act 1, Scene 1
Enter KNIGHT IN SHINING ARMOR