Monogamy is not loyalty. Monogamy is loving the most incredible person in our entire lives.
Despite what naturalists and fundamentalist psychologists may say about man’s need to spread his seed, it is not true. Man’s eternal search for eternal happiness does not include the demand to spread the fruit of his womb.
Yes, we are sexual beings, but none of us are driven by sex. Gay or straight, transgender or bisexual, asexual or polyamorous, we all long to touch. We long for understanding. We long for honesty. We long to be loved for who we really are.
Most say that it is normal for us to have secret sexual desires for more than one lover; Many would say that a sexual partner must be maintained through strict and disciplined loyalty. But take a look at what might really matter: “You’re the only one I want. You’re the only one I need. You’re the only one that intensifies my fantasies.” What else would make fireworks explode in our souls at any given moment, on any given day?
Fantasies play a very important role in all of our minds. We fantasize about everything from money to sex, cars, physical contact, love and intimacy. But keep in mind that the particles that make up the world around us are the same particles that make up the fantasies that consume us. So which one is real?
Here’s a new concept, turning a common misconception on its head: reality is not real. Reality… is highly overrated.
Fantasies are what is real. Reality is really the nonexistence existing in our minds. Being so broke we can’t buy beans; have a gas bill 3 months overdue at the cut-off point; receiving a letter in the mail explaining that our house is going to be foreclosed… is this real?
Rather, is our behavior, outlook, and lover the reality that consumes us? Imagine: “Honey, we have this. We have each other. That’s all we need. I will take care of you. I will protect you. I will love you forever.”
Fantasies precede only what exists in reality that we realistically create. our fantasies become our reality. And I’m not voicing the cliché, “We reap what we sow mentally.” I am preaching true love. Movie love. The love we yearn for, yearn for, sigh and beg for.
The families we create do not form a family unit. Children do not make a marriage. Children do not make a family. The family begins with the spouses. Reality can be expressed in what exists in our minds and hopes and actions rather than the tangibility of bills, children, houses, or cars.
So how do we find this true love?
Bringing two to tango becomes quite mysterious if viewed from the proper perspective. In fact, it takes two people for a relationship to work, but do we really want a relationship to just work?
The grass is not greener on the other side. The grass is not even greener where we water it. The grass is greener where men follow the commission of God, the Universe or the Universal Mystery of Life to guide our ladies to eternal love. Men do not need to water the grass where they lie down. We need to be the mature beings brought to this earth to propose to our lovers the endowment of the gift of true love. Men are the leaders in the dance of life…women follow. Women want nothing more than to follow, despite how many women seem to want to lead the charge to change this world. This is only because men have failed them. Hear it. Believe it. It belongs to me.
Men, let’s open the way. Let’s take the fantasies of our lovers and make them come true through our feelings, words, actions and service. We really do prefer fantasy to “reality”, and all fantasies begin with our lovers. Take the fantasy and consider it as reality. Let’s find our soulmates and transform our everyday monotony into a true monogamy that requires nothing less than explosive fireworks, which don’t always go off, but are constantly ready to go off.